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March Self Care Themes

Each month, I like to set a theme. Typically it's a way for me to reset and make sure that I am still on track for my goals and plans. I am overwhelmed when there is too much going on, so I like to have a few focus areas to act as guardrails for my month.

I'm sure you guys have all seen the jokes going around about March. While I've had a 'keke' or two as well, I still want us to remember and stay focused. I wanted to share with you my four big self-care themes for March.

Eat Healthily - focus on a specific area of nutrition for the month. I'm lowering carbs and working on cooking the food I've already paid for instead of going to get takeout. The last one is hard with my schedule so pray my strength.

Connect - for those of us who are still socially distancing, it can get lonely. I’m a hugger who misses hugging my friends. I can’t fix the hugging thing, but I have been coming up with ways to hang out with my friends in a socially distanced way. I’ve started using masked hikes as a way to connect with friends and loved ones, IRL. Be creative but be sure to do your research and use your own best judgment to stay safe.

Rest - Yes, everyone is "team no sleep" and "getting it out the mud" and "the grind don't stop" and “hustle hard cause closed mouths don’t get fed” all those other cute catchphrases. However, we function so much better when well-rested. I've struggled, exhausted, for hours on something only to give up and go to bed. I woke up to complete the task in 20 mins. Make rest a habit.

Boundaries - As a species, humans are habitual line steppers. You HAVE to set boundaries with them. It has been my experience boundaries are better set with actions than arguments. This doesn’t mean that I don’t believe in speaking up for myself, but if someone dismisses my need for respect, I find it best to distance myself instead of going back and forth. My mom says that disrespectful people often don't care what type of energy and attention you give them as long as it's attention. Of course, I didn’t listen to her the first time she said it, but I learned the often best way to deal with line steppers is not to respond. If you are a person who needs “closure,” work on that.

In general - It is rare that anyone in your life will ever make you their top priority or be considerate of how tired you are or everything on your plate. Not all of that is selfishness; it that they lack awareness and they have their own things that they are considering. Therefore, the onus is on you to set up boundaries to protect you and your energy. Do NOT be afraid to speak up for yourself and consider your own wellness before committing to anything. “No.” - is a complete sentence.

So talk to me, what are your self-care themes for March?

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